you're justifying self mutilation and trashing people who actually do know what they're talking about when they say that you need help, whether you want to accept that or not, they recognize why people do cut and they also know, perhaps even by seeing themselves, where the path of cutting leads. no, you didn't cut this time for the sake of suicide, and i would stake my truck that the therapist didn't consider so much.
what happens when you rely on cutting to feel/conceal emotions is that it doesn't solve any problems, and you're kidding yourself if you tell yourself that you're distracting yourself until you can handle it better. here's a good test to see if i'm right about this - give me five reasons that you've cut in the past, and then tell me how many times you have cut for the sake of issues related to those reasons. it's ultimately a trend, and as time goes on and you continue to rely on it, you'll stop feeling those cuts, your method of distraction will stop working, so you'll cut deeper and deeper in order to receive the satisfaction that you feel you need. as you spiral through the gateway, you'll begin feeling a sense of hopelessness, and ultimately you will seek other, more dangerous methods and activities to give you the release.
simply put, your defense for cutting is typical. you're not unique in it whatsoever, so when people say that you need help, they're saying it not because they don't understand you but rather because they do understand you much better than you want to believe. cutting is never a solution to any problem.
i know what you're going to say: "i never said it was a solution." then you're going to go on to defend yourself. don't bother, i already know that my words are falling on figuratively deaf ears. there will come a point one day, though, i hope, when you look back on your life and recognize all of the advice that you've been given over the years and wish that you had been a little more open to other views and opinions.
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Date: 2008-05-12 02:43 am (UTC)what happens when you rely on cutting to feel/conceal emotions is that it doesn't solve any problems, and you're kidding yourself if you tell yourself that you're distracting yourself until you can handle it better. here's a good test to see if i'm right about this - give me five reasons that you've cut in the past, and then tell me how many times you have cut for the sake of issues related to those reasons. it's ultimately a trend, and as time goes on and you continue to rely on it, you'll stop feeling those cuts, your method of distraction will stop working, so you'll cut deeper and deeper in order to receive the satisfaction that you feel you need. as you spiral through the gateway, you'll begin feeling a sense of hopelessness, and ultimately you will seek other, more dangerous methods and activities to give you the release.
simply put, your defense for cutting is typical. you're not unique in it whatsoever, so when people say that you need help, they're saying it not because they don't understand you but rather because they do understand you much better than you want to believe. cutting is never a solution to any problem.
i know what you're going to say: "i never said it was a solution." then you're going to go on to defend yourself. don't bother, i already know that my words are falling on figuratively deaf ears. there will come a point one day, though, i hope, when you look back on your life and recognize all of the advice that you've been given over the years and wish that you had been a little more open to other views and opinions.